Moving to a new city is a HUGE decision. You’re choosing to leave your friends and family behind to venture into a new territory. While moving to a new environment can provide a much-needed fresh start, full of possibility—not having people who you’re familiar with can be daunting. Many students face the prospect of moving to a new city when college beckons, and life after high school is over.
Finding new friends is easy for some, but a lot of hard work for others. After all the friends you had before you may have known since kindergarten! When you move to a new town as an adult, you have to put in a lot of effort to meet new people. In order to make your transition more enjoyable (and long-lasting), making friends is a crucial part of your move.
In this post, we’re sharing the obvious (and not so obvious) ways to make new friends. And by friends, we mean real friends. Friends that like you for you and want to see you succeed in your new life.
Always be yourself
It can be overwhelming to move to a new city. It’s not easy changing your life and relocating. But your move doesn’t change who you are! It sounds simple, but find concrete ways to reground yourself in what matters to you. Consider journaling out your values, your beliefs, and what you hope to find in your new life. When you know yourself, you know who you want to surround yourself with. Check out our blog on manifestation—which touches on the philosophy of this.
Being yourself is always the right answer. It’s better for someone to like you for who you are than for a false persona that you’ve created. Real friends will understand and accept you. That is the building block of any solid relationship.
Keep an open mind
You have to be a friend to have a friend. That means always keeping an open mind and trying not to judge others. Just because someone may be standoffish or shy, doesn’t mean they too aren’t looking for a pal. Who knows, the person you’ve brushed off could have become the best friend you ever had! Accept people for who they are and try to see from their own point of view. Friends don’t judge, discriminate, or shove their own ethics onto others.
Join campus groups
The best way to make friends as a college student is by joining different social groups on campus. Most often your school will have a clubs day, so you can check out which clubs may be most interesting to you. And in the new world of COVID-19, a lot of universities are hosting virtual events, so students still can find opportunities to hang out and meet people. An added bonus of these groups is you get to learn more about the campus, policies, and other exciting information that will make your life just a tad easier.
Be open to invitations
If you are a human hermit crab or a couch potato, the most challenging thing you can do is leaving the comfort zone of your home or dorm room. With this attitude, you won’t be able to make friends. In order to actually make new friends, you have to go out. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there. Who knows, maybe there’s a Horror Film enthusiast group on campus, who love to gather virtually for watch parties of their favorite spooky movies. Although it is good to take precautions, you should still accept invitations to go out.
Say it again for those in the back: VOLUNTEER! This is an excellent way to meet new people. And it comes with a huge bonus; volunteering will give you a sense of accomplishment. When you’re new to a community, diving into volunteer work can make you feel more connected than ever. It’s a great way to get in tune with the city and its people, plus, it feels great to help others. More often than not, shelters, clean-up crews, and other groups are always looking for more people to get involved. It’s so easy to become an active part of the community.
Ok, this is a good idea in more ways than one. Having similar classes with someone is a great and effortless way to make new friends. You literally see each other in class. There will always be something to talk about because you’re taking the same course.
Also, you don’t have to go the extra mile to talk to someone in your class. A simple conversation about the lecture or perhaps borrowing a pen could be the beginning of a pleasant and lasting friendship.
Explore the sights
You gotta go where the people are. Try visiting places like parks, coffee shops, museums, or restaurants regularly. It may feel awkward at first, but getting outside is the first step to meet people. And if you’re on the hunt for a side gig while you’re taking classes—consider a part-time job where your peers may work as well! It’s easy to meet people when you’re also serving them their favorite coffee beverage.
There’s no one way to make friends. And as we get older, it becomes a lot more work to meet people. Keep these tips in mind, but make them your own! The most important thing is being yourself and keeping an open mind in order to attract the right energy.